The Reality Show Couples Curse: Are Khloe and Lamar Doomed to Fail?
Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom seem like they’re a match made in heaven and things are going well for them. They have a loving extended family, they’re both successful, and they’re trying to have a baby. They also have their own reality show — but so did many other couples before them who haven’t been so lucky in love. (Do Nick and Jessica ring a bell to anyone?) If the past is any predictor, Khloe and Lamar — who just had their first public fight on an episode of K&L — are headed for a vicious reality TV curse that may just split them up.
Some people like E! host Giuliana DiPandi Rancic argue that a reality show can build up — not break down — a relationship. Giuliana and her husband Bill Rancic invited cameras into their home back in 2007 and have shot three seasons of their romantic reality romp, Giuliana and Bill, for the Style Network. "If you are strong enough as a couple, reality shows can be a good thing for the relationship," DiPandi said. She adds that the stronger the couple, the better the chance that the relationship will be able to withstand the pressures of taping a reality show.
But psychologists disagree!
"The constant intrusion by the cameras and TV audience allows for little individual down time or alone time for the couple," Dr. Shiela Forman, a clinical psychologist and attorney, explains to BettyConfidential.com. "Imagine a nosy mother-in-law moving in and giving the couple no peace." Well, we can’t see Kris Jenner moving in any time soon — but Rob Kardashian already has!
Experts also say that couples can get so caught up in the reality show hype that they start to neglect their relationship. "Most couples featured in reality shows have an agenda related to... financial gain, career acceleration, fame, notoriety, or validation and adulation from others," Dr. Joseph Cilona, a Manhattan clinical psychologist, tells BettyConfidential.com. "These agendas may be a higher priority for the couple than the nurturing, protection and integrity of the relationship."
So, do Khloe and Lamar believe in the ‘curse’? Nope! They argue that the show will only make their relationship stronger.
“These shows have made[(The Kardashians] closer and stronger… and also, this show is therapy to us,” Khloe said on Access Hollywood. “We do film anything and everything. Fights, DUIs, births, everything — we film it… and you learn to mature and change yourself. So for us, the shows have made us grow. And I pray that happens with [Khloe & Lamar]. If you do have cracks in your foundation, they will only get emphasized on TV. So if you can’t learn and grow from them, then you’re going to have problems. But I think if you’re gonna break up, you’re gonna break up.”
Reality’s Rocky Road
We admire Khloe’s optimism, but for the sake of being realistic here are few couples who found their romances couldn’t handle the spotlight. These are the failed pairings that either got together on TV or got their own series after they got together… and then broke up. Khloe and Lamar, take note: We do not want to see you two end up like these couples!
The Bachelor franchise hasn’t exactly been successful in producing lifelong relationships. After 10 seasons of The Bachelor and six seasons of the Bachelorette, only two couples have made it down the aisle. Brad and Emily looked SO in love — making quite a few Wetpainters tear up when he finally got down on one knee and proposed during the season finale. But if you believe some sources the engaged couple is already on the rocks. (Although after viewing these adorable pix, we hope they patch things up.)
The MTV show tracked the rocky relationship of Leah Messer and baby daddy Corey Simms. After dating for only a month, the couple found out they were preggers. But the relationship was dunzo soon after the birth of twins Aliannah Hope and Aleeah Grace. Leah and Corey managed to reconcile and get married on the show’s season finale. Wedded bliss did not last long and six months later the couple filed for divorce.
We never could figure out why fab fashionista Lauren Conrad was even with resident scumbag Jason Wahler. Lauren gave up a summer in Paris to spend time with Jason. He kept getting into drunken messes that she was forced to clean up. Oy vey. But the good girl and bad boy split for good while taping the reality show.
They were a cute couple with a ton of kids. People tuned into Jon and Kate’s bickering — but clearly loving — relationship. Unfortunately, the fame was too much for their marriage. Jon embarked on a cringe-worthy midlife crisis and started wearing Ed Hardy. Kate became even more of a nag. Under rumors of infidelity, the pair signed divorce paper on December 16, 2009, after 10 years of marriage. But the real tragedy here? Kate Gosselin’s unfortunate stint on Dancing With the Stars.
The couple married in 2002 and went on to document their wedded bliss on The Newlyweds. Jessica’s inability to tell the difference between tuna and chicken launched the songstress to even higher heights of fame. Meanwhile, Nick had to resign himself being best known as Jessica Simpson’s husband. The songbirds had a high-profile split in 2006.
Carmen Electra and Dave Navarro of Til Death Do Us Part: Carmen and Dave
The MTV reality show followed Carmen and Dave’s wedding preparations. Unfortunately, this rock star relationship only lasted three years — from 2003 to 2006. Dave admitted that the show wasn’t the most accurate depiction of their romance, describing the reality series as “the most realistic portrayal of your life with eight guys with cameras around."
Chaotic tracked Britney and Kevin’s entire relationship — from their first meeting to their wedding. The reality series drew from the couple’s home videos and personal interviews. The show was short-lived (it was only on for a month!) and so was the marriage. It lasted just over two years.