Elena and Stefan: A Vampire Diaries Dating Timeline
Ah, the way they were. We have no idea how long they were together (time in Mystic Falls is crazypants), but Elena (Nina Dobrev) and Stefan (Paul Wesley) have been through a lot on The Vampire Diaries. Now that they’ve broken up (again), let’s take a look back at their love. Cue the Boyz II Men.
1846 — A baby is born. Little Stefan Salvatore comes into the world.
1864 — A vampire is born. Stefan’s sexy girlfriend Katherine (Nina Dobrev) turns him into a bloodsucker.
1992 — A doppelganger is born. Katherine’s double Elena (Nina Dobrev) makes her way into the world, and a complicated parental situation.
May 2009— Stefan saves Elena. After her parents drive off Wickery Bridge, Stefan comes to Elena’s rescue, pulling her from the sinking car.
May to September 2009— Stefan researches Elena. After realizing Elena looks like Katherine, Stefan tries to find out who she is and why she’s the double of his ex.
Season 1, Episode 1, “Pilot”— Stefan and Elena come face-to-face. This time, Elena is conscious.
Season 1, Episode 2, “Night of the Comet” — Stefan and Elena kiss. Woo! Does this make them an official couple? He’s hot and a good kisser. What more does she need to know?
Season 1, Episode 3, “Friday Night Bites” — If you wanna be my lover (you gotta get with my friends). Elena tries to convince Bonnie (Kat Graham) that Stefan is decent by having them both to dinner. Stefan gives her a vervain-filled necklace, the vampire-equivalent of a promise ring.
Season 1, Episode 5, “You’re Undead to Me” — Elena starts to suspect something. “Why is my boyfriend so supernaturally hot?”
Season 1, Episode 6, “Lost Girls” — Stefan confirms he’s a vampire; he and Elena break up. She just can’t handle the truth.
Season 1, Episode 8, “162 Candles” — Elena meets Stefan’s bestie. A wise old vampire named Lexi ‘ships Stelena and tries to get them back together.
Season 1, Episode 9, “History Repeating” — Elena relents, Stefan rejects. While Elena is ready to forgive and forget (but not in a mind-erase-y way), Stefan wants the killing to stop and decides to leave town, alone.
Season 1, Episode 10, “Turning Point” — Stelena sex. Elena tells Stefan she loves him. He decides to stay, and they decided to lose their clothes. Post-coitus, Elena finds a photo of Katherine, and realizes Stefan really does have a type.
Season 1, Episode 11, “Bloodlines” — BTW, we totally met before. Stefan tells Elena about her parents’ car crash and says he loves her. They are in love.
Season 1, Episode 19, “Miss Mystic Falls” — Stelena is an alcoholic vampire boyfriend. Stefan has been drinking human blood on the down low, something that makes him unstable. His brother, Damon (Ian Somerhalder), ends up escorting Elena in the Miss Mystic Falls pageant, and then they vervain Stefan and lock him up so he doesn’t eat anyone.
Season 1, Episode 20, “Blood Brothers” — Elena’s love is the cure. Elena helps get Stefan’s blood craving under control.
Season 1, Episode 22, “Founder’s Day” — Stefan’s ex comes to Mystic Falls. Katherine shows up and kisses Damon while pretending to be Elena.
Season 2, Episode 1, “The Return” — Elena chooses a brother. Though she knows Damon has feelings for her, Elena tells him that “It will always be Stefan.”
Season 2, Episode 4, “Memory Lane” — Katherine demands a breakup. Katherine is still in love with Stefan, and she threatens to kill Elena unless he breaks things off with the human doppelganger. He complies, but it’s all a sham.
Season 2, Episode 6, “Plan B” — Katherine plays dirty. Using Elena’s family for leverage — Katherine compels Aunt Jenna (Sara Canning) to stab herself — Stefan’s ex manages to force the couple to break up.
Season 2, Episode 7, “Masquerade” — Entombed. Katherine is trapped in an underground tomb, where she’s no longer a threat to Stefan and Elena’s relationship. For now.
Season 2, Episode 11, “By the Light of the Moon” — Aboveground reunion. Stefan is released from the tomb, where he’d been trapped since the previous episode. He and Elena proceed to make out.
Season 2, Episode 14, “Crying Wolf” — Weekend away. Elena and Stefan decide to have a rendezvous to her family’s cabin. All doesn’t go as planned, but, hey. It’s the thought that counts.
Season 2, Episode 20 “The Last Day” — Forever’s a long time. Damon force feeds Elena his blood in an attempt to save her life. She and Stefan take a hike to the Falls, where she says she never wants to become a vampire. (Foreshadowing.)
Season 2, Episode 22, “As I Lay Dying” — A kiss before dying. Elena kisses a nearly dead Damon and tells him she likes him. Meanwhile, Stefan is forced to revert to his Ripper ways by Klaus (Joseph Morgan).
Season 3, Episode 1, “Birthday” — A phone call from far away. While Stefan was away ripping, Elena spent the summer hoping to save him from Klaus. When he calls her and says nothing, she tells him to hold on.
Season 3, Episode 2, “The Hybrid” — Elena on a mission. Elena travels to Tennessee on a Stefan rescue mission. It fails.
Season 3, Episode 4, “Disturbing Behavior” — Hello again. Stefan returns to Mystic Falls, with Klaus in tow.
Season 3, Episode 5, “The Reckoning” — Hello again. Klaus compels Stefan to turn his emotions off, snapping the Ripper’s last tie to Elena.
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Season 3, Episode 9, “Homecoming”— One small step for Stefan. Stefan helps Klaus and gets his humanity back in exchange.
Season 3, Episode 11, “Our Town”— Stefan almost kills Elena on Wickery Bridge. This is a low point.
Season 3, Episode 12, “The Ties That Bind”— Kiss confession.
Elena tells Stefan that she kissed Damon.
Season 3, Episode 13, “Bringing Out the Dead”— Brotherly love. Stefan and Damon talk about their feelings, namely, that they’re both in love with the same girl.
Season 3, Episode 14, “Dangerous Liaisons”— Stefan is scared. Elena and Stefan have a moment, but he says he’s afraid to feel again.
Season 3, Episode 18, “Murder of One”— Tearin’ up my heart. Elena tells Stefan she has feelings for both him and Damon.
Season 3, Episode 19, “Heart of Darkness”— Ride or die. Stefan sends Elena and Damon on a road trip, so she can figure out who she should be with. Rose’s ghost points out the benefits and drawbacks to both brothers, though she seems to prefer Elena with Damon.
Season 3, Episode 20, “Do Not Go Gentle”— Decade Dance romance. Elena invites Stefan to the Decade Dance, and he helps her mourn Alaric (Matt Davis).
Season 3, Episode 21, “Before Sunset”— Pact mentality. Stefan and Damon make a pact: Whomever Elena doesn’t choose will leave Mystic Falls for.ev.er.
Season 3, Episode 22, “The Departed”— Elena makes a choice. And the winner is... Stefan. She goes over a bridge and dies before she can tell him, though.
Season 4, Episode 1, “Growing Pains” — Brand new you. Elena wakes up a vampire, and she finally gets to tell Stefan that she chose him. After she becomes a full-fledged vampire, he gives her a daylight ring.
Season 4, Episode 2, “Memorial” — Everything is heightened. After she feeds from a deer, Elena and Stefan have some sexytime in the woods. Then she vomits blood.
Season 4, Episode 4, “The Five” — Dirty dancing. While she and Damon are away at Whitmore College, Elena drinks blood and dirty dances with him. She keeps the secret from Stefan.
Season 4, Episode 5, “The Killer” — To cure or not to cure? Stefan tells Damon he wants Elena back to the way she was, while Damon says he likes her either way.
Season 4, Episode 6, “We All Go a Little Mad Sometimes” — The end? Stefan tells Elena he knows her feelings for Damon have changed; he says, “I can’t do this, Elena. Not anymore.” She replies, “I know.”