No Doubt singer/L.A.M.B. fashion designer Gwen Stefani and her husband, Bush singer Gavin Rossdale, have been together 16 years, married for 10. They have two children together. Gwen, now 43, is on the cover of Vogue's January 2013 issue, talking about her her guilt in balancing work and motherhood, and how things just didn’t turn out as the rock star expected.
“It’s superfun being a mom, but it’s not what you think it’s going to be," Gwen told Vogue. "And it’s really gradual. At first, your life is totally the same. You have this cute little thing that you get to drive around everywhere and you’re so proud and it’s amazing. And as they grow older, it really does start to change your life. Like, Oh, my God, they have school, they have to get through first grade, they have to learn to read." She laughed. "It starts getting so serious, and you’re like, Aaaaaaah! And to do all that while sustaining this insane childhood of my own. . . . I’ve never had to grow up in a way. When you think about it, we were in college together, and then we made our first record, and then we just took off and stayed in this bubble. Time kind of stops when you’re in a band. It’s this suspended childhood, and it’s really awesome, that part of it. But then when you have a family of your own, it forces you to go into the adult world a little bit more."
It's been difficult for her and Gavin to balance work and family, and she said it was especially hard when Gavin was touring for almost a year to promote his band's new album. It left her in the position to almost be a single mom.
"I mean, he was there for me mentally, but physically? These boys are physical. They wake up and they start punching each other! One thing we’ve had in our relationship the whole time is that we can have it both ways: together, not together, and it’s fine. But when you have kids? It’s not so great. They need him. Once you have a family, it’s just so obvious how everyone needs each other. So it’s really nice to have him back.”
Yeah, you do have to grow up a bit when you become a parent, which is pretty much the opposite of the Peter Pan rock star ethos. Everything in life is a trade-off! Compromise is the name of the game. At least rock stars have that whole money thing taken care of, which isn't the case with all working parents.