Designer Nate Berkus lost his love, photographer Fernando Bengoechea, when the tsunami hit while they were vacationing in Sri Lanka in 2004.
This past December, Nate was revealed to be dating Jeremiah Brent, a former assistant to stylist Rachel Zoe. It’s always good to see people happy in their relationships, but Nate recently revealed to Oprah Winfrey that his father wasn’t always accepting of his sexuality.
Nate’s two-part interview, Oprah & Nate Berkus: The Things That Matter, will air February 10 and February 17 on OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network.
"I asked my father: 'Do you trust me? Do you respect me? Do you think I'm smart?' He said, 'Yes,'" Nate told Oprah (via People). "I said, 'Why would I choose to make my life more difficult — why would anyone choose to make their life more difficult? Do you think I would choose to have this hair? Do you think that I would choose to be 5'9"? I would have been 6'1". It's the exact same thing. The truth of the matter is being gay is the way I was born. I believe this to the core of my being.'"
As Nate continued, "I said, 'Dad, we are never going to have a real relationship if you don’t believe me.' He said, 'If you say you are born this way, and you didn't have a choice, then we are good.' That was really the moment. Then, I knew if I had this base level of respect that I could move forward."
It’s good that Nate and his father could find a path to acceptance, but how sad that being gay — or of “average” height — is something that would make your life more “difficult” and have to be overcome. There are some things you can’t change about yourself, and maybe those are the things you should embrace.