What Is Tantric Sex Anyway? You Asked; We Answered!
Bees do it. Birds do it. Sting does it? Well, if you’ve heard anything about the famous musician, you know there is a very specialized way he “does it” with his wife, Trudie Styler! The former frontman for The Police has touted the benefits of tantric sex for years now, so we decided to find out — just what is tantric sex anyway?
“The word Tantra means ‘to manifest, to expand, to show and to weave,’” according to Discovery Health. “In this context, sex is thought to expand consciousness and to weave together the polarities of male (represented by the Hindu god, Shiva), and female (embodied by the Hindu goddess, Shakti), into a harmonious whole.”
In the Western world, the typical sex act has a beginning and an end, with the session usually lasting about 10 to 15 minutes. As the Discovery Health article points out, it takes most women about 20 minutes to reach full arousal, so you do the math! Needless to say, this leaves many women feeling unsatisfied.
As the article notes, with the Tantric model, “the sexual experience is seen as a dance with no beginning or end. There is no goal, only the present moment of exquisite union. For this reason, lovemaking is meditative, expressive and intimate.” And the bonus? With tantric sex, both women and men can experience several orgasms in a single sexual encounter. Just clear your calendar!
Don’t get “O” so caught up in that, however, as most teachers of tantra will recommend that most people don’t even think about intercourse as the ultimate goal of a tantra session. In fact, they will typically recommend that you spend weeks doing Tantric Intimacy Exercises, finding out what your partner likes but not necessarily engaging in sex.
Three tips from the article: 1) Make time for each other each week (as we all know, this alone can be challenging!). 2) Create an inviting atmosphere (think candles, music, or whatever you like best). 3) Dress provocatively, or wear nothing at all!