For a long time, you really couldn’t talk about the Jonas Brothers without somebody mentioning their purity rings. The then-Disney stars were bona fide tween musical sensations, and the boys’s decisions to save sex until marriage helped label them as wholesome and parent-approved.

But the group, who have since parted with Disney, quietly removed their purity rings a few years back. Oldest brother Kevin is married and has a baby on the way, so that’s a given, but now middle brother Joe is opening up about his first time.

“I lost my virginity when I was 20. I did other stuff before then, but I was sexually active at 20,” the now 24-year-old tells New York Magazine via Vulture. Joe was dating Twilight actress Ashley Greene at the time, so we’d say it’s pretty safe to assume that she was his first.

The pop star says he’s pleased with his decision. “I’m glad I waited for the right person, because you look back and you go, ‘That girl was batshit crazy. I’m glad I didn’t go there.’” (In related news, every girl Joe dated before Ashley just took her copy of New York Magazine and threw it across the room.)

Back to those purity rings for a moment, though. Joe reveals that they boys never were too comfortable how their sex lives — or lack thereof — “dominated news coverage” of about them for such “a long time.”

“Back then, we explained that we had made these promises to ourselves when we were younger. A few months later, it comes out that we’re in some cult and that we’re these little staged Mickey Mouse kids. People were coming up to us, saying, ‘Thank you so much, I’m waiting because you guys are, too!’ And we just thought, No! That’s not what we’re about.”

Still, what the brother were or weren’t doing seemed like all anybody wanted to talk about. “We couldn’t escape it,” he says. Joe tells of interviewers who didn’t seem to care about anything but the rings. He remembers one in particular who “kept pushing the subject, and when we insisted that we didn’t want to talk about it, he told us, ‘I can write whatever I want.’”

This, Joe says, terrified them. “That’s the thing: We didn’t know any better, and we just wanted to make people happy.”

Do you think that wearing purity rings made the Jonas Brothers good role models, or does it make you feel a bit uncomfortable that so many people cared in the first place? Head below and sound off!

SourceNew York Magazine via Vulture