Credit: Paul A. Hebert/Getty Images Photo: Sara Ramirez at the 2013 TCA Tour in Beverly Hills, California on August 4, 2013

One of our favorite things about Grey’s Anatomy is the life lessons we learn from the characters — and Meredith’s (Ellen Pompeo) monologues. Thanks to Grey’s, we know better than to cut any LVAD wires, take private jets, or cheat on our significant others (even during a hurricane, after we’ve lost our leg in a plane crash).

And now, Sara Ramirez (Callie Torres) is ready to share what she’s learned from life with the class so that we can benefit from her mistakes. When she sat down with Glamour recently, she shared five things she learned in her 30s that have changed her life.

One of our favorites? Remembering to stay positive.

It's more comfortable to think, 'Woe is me' rather than, 'I'm going to get back on my feet!' or 'I'm going to empower myself!’” Sara said. So true — but it’s better for you to cut the pity party short and try to improve whatever’s going wrong yourself.

Sara also stressed the importance of being yourself in a relationship, because if you’re not, you’ll never know if you’re with someone you’re truly compatible with.

I didn't play any games when I met my husband, and I'm proud of that. If I wanted to text him back right away, I did (but if I didn't have time or didn't feel comfortable, then I wouldn't). When you allow yourself to be seen, that's what works in my experience,” Sara said. “I'd rather know that [someone] doesn't want to be with the real me right away versus seven years down the line. It's not worth trying to keep a man if you're pretending to be someone else."

We will take advice from Grey’s Anatomy stars any day. Ellen Pompeo, where you at?

Source: Glamour