Many people consider women to be the more emotional, sensitive sex, but one man took to Facebook to prove men do, indeed, feel deeply. Motivational Speaker Gerald Rogers shared some wonderfully profound sentiments about his recent divorce, as he parted ways with his wife of 16 years. He took the time to painstakingly walk through what he learned from his mistakes, and what he thinks you, too, can learn.
Below are a few of our faves:
1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.
2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.
3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.
Probably the best quote in that is “you have to re-choose each other everyday.” Amen to that, as anyone who has been married for a while knows that people grow and, in many cases, begin to transform into a different person than the one you married. But that person is still in there, too, and you need to revisit that commitment. Every. Single. Day. It’s such a powerful message.
He ended it on an inspirational note:
20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.
What’s also refreshing is he doesn’t shun the idea of re-marrying but, instead, looks forward to doing so and, in turn, using his own wisdom to fortify the relationship. “I will get married again," Gerald writes, "and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time."
Have you been divorced and, if so, can you relate to this? What did you learn?