SAHM vs. working mothers – the debate between the two groups is a contentious one, and it was no more evident than in the comments on a blog post that went viral overnight. It’s by a blogger by the name of Matt Walsh, who was commenting on a conversation he had with two separate people after his wife decided not to return to work. To put it mildly, Matt was not fond of the way these people reacted with disdain.
As one woman said to him, “Oh fun! That must be nice!”
The other, whom Matt ran into in a coffee shop, said incredulously, “So is your wife staying at home permanently?”
She went on to say, “Yeah, mine is 14 now. But I’ve had a career the whole time as well. I can’t imagine being a stay at home mom. I would get so antsy. [Giggles] What does she DO all day?”
“Oh, just absolutely everything. What do you do all day?” Matt replied.
“…Me? Ha! I WORK!” the woman replied.
Like many women who have stayed home have felt, Matt was angry at this whole “just a mom” attitude he got from these women.
While he points out not all “professional” women are “rude” or “pompous” or “smug” like these women were, but he feels something need to change, and didn’t mince any words about it.
“I want to kick our backwards, materialistic society in the shins and say, ‘GET YOUR FREAKING HEAD ON STRAIGHT, SOCIETY.’” Matt wrote
Matt continued, “The pagans deified Maternity and turned it into a goddess. We’ve gone the other direction; we treat it like a disease or an obstacle.”
Matt then goes into the fact that jobs, while necessary for almost all of us, aren’t the end-all, be-all.
“Whatever your job is — you are expendable. You are a number. You are a calculation. You are a servant. You can be replaced, and you will be replaced eventually. Am I being harsh? No, I’m being someone who has a job. I’m being real,” Matt wrote.
And, as for his wife – there are likely few women out there who didn’t get a bit choked up by reading what he wrote about her.
Explaining that he and their kids would not function without her, Matt wrote, “She JUST teaches our twins how to be human beings, and, as they grow, she will JUST train them in all things, from morals, to manners, to the ABC’s, to hygiene, etc. She is JUST my spiritual foundation and the rock on which our family is built. She is JUST everything to everyone.”
He put it so perfectly, writing that it’s “sort of like looking at the sky and saying, ‘hey, it’s just the sun.’”
I’m not going to lie – this makes me SWOON. When I finished reading it, I admired the hell out of him. And, the truth is, I fall somewhere in between SAHM and working mother. I’m a freelance writer, and many days feeling like I’m so stretched, I’m doing a crappy job at both. But for someone of the male persuasion to be able to see it this way – it touched me...and then I read the comments. There were 5,319 of them at the time of this article! And, man, some people were beyond angry!
While some loved the post and his admiration for his wife, many working mothers took exception with what he wrote, pointing out how hard they work to balance their work and home lives.