We all want the best for our kids, but unfortunately, you might not know how to identify your own kids as spoiled, but trust us, everyone else can! So how do you know if your kids are super spoiled or just super loved? Here are a few signs courtesy of Lil Sugar:
They constantly throw temper tantrums. Kids who act out in public and at home may be exhibiting spoiled behavior because they don’t know any other way to communicate disappointment, frustration, or anger when they don’t get their way.
They can’t go no satisfaction. Spoiled kids are rarely happy with what they have and pretty much always want what everyone else has.
They’re controlling of everyone — including adults. This is the one we can’t deal with, partly because it’s unacceptable to listen to a toddler boss around an adult, and partly because it turns us into bratty adults whose only response is, “You can’t tell me what to do!”
They make you beg them for everything. The humiliating game of, “I’m the adult, you’re the child, so pretty, pretty, please do what I say,” is taxing and ridiculous. You’re large and in charge and your kids need to learn that — and fast!
How can you change the behavior before it’s permanent? Harvey Karp, MD, and the brains behind The Happiest Baby on The Block suggests:
Setting consistent limits. Make sure that your kids know what your rules and boundaries are and if you bend one, let them know it’s a special exception.
Following through on consequences for breaking rules. Don’t bend, don’t break—unless you want the bad behavior to remain.
Helping your children learn to take “no” for an answer. This is a biggie—not child likes to hear the word “no” but they need to learn how to accept it as an answer so they don’t rely on always getting their way.