Mother Writes to Doctor Who Suggested She Abort Special-Needs Baby
Courtney Baker says every action, “from opening and closing the mailbox to raising the red flag,” gave her closure as she sent a letter to the doctor who suggested she abort her pregnancy, the pregnancy that produced her now-15-month-old daughter, Emersyn Faith.
In the letter, now online on the Parker Myles Facebook page, this mom from Sanford, Florida, reminds the unnamed doctor what he said after diagnosing her unborn child Down syndrome: that Courtney should terminate the pregnancy.
“From that first visit, we dreaded our appointments,” she wrote. “The most difficult time in my life was made nearly unbearable because you never told me the truth. My child was perfect.”
That truth is exactly what a different prenatal specialist told Courtney’s friend after the birth of the friend’s son, another baby with Down syndrome. “I wish you could have been that doctor,” Courtney wrote.
“The most difficult time in my life was made nearly unbearable because you never told me the truth. My child was perfect.”
“I’m not angry. I’m not bitter. I’m really just sad,” she continued. “I’m sad the tiny beating hearts you see every day don’t fill you with a perpetual awe … I’m sad you were so very wrong to say a baby with Down syndrome would decrease our quality of life. And I’m heartbroken you might have said that to a mommy even today.
“But I’m mostly sad you’ll never have the privilege of knowing my daughter, Emersyn.”
Emersyn even helped Courtney drop the letter in the mailbox. “I hope he sees Emmy. I hope he sees my words on paper,” the proud mama told ABC News. “Emmy is proof that children with special needs are worthy and can change the world. She’s doing it right now.”