Julie Bowen's character on Modern Family, Claire Dunphy, may have figured out the optimal way of tackling motherhood, thanks to her type-A personality and a healthy dose of color-coding, but off-screen, the actress knows things aren't quite so simple.

In a new interview with Working Mother, Julie reveals that any dreams of being a "cool mom" are long gone, in favor of providing her kids with a home that actually functions. 

"It's not about everybody being happy all the time. It's about setting limits," says the star. "In my house that makes my kids very unhappy, like tantrums-on-the-ground-twice-a-day unhappy. But the limits are set."

Julie, who has three young sons with husband Scott Phillips, says that her family-friendly show has allowed her to strike a work-life balance that most actresses can only dream of, for which she's greatful.

"My schedule at Modern Family is fantastic, so I didn't have to give up much. But I'm discovering that my kids now notice more when I'm gone, that they want more time and attention. So I shorten trips to a bare minimum or just don't go at all." 

While her "amazing" husband spends much of his time around their children while he works at home as a software developer, they've clearly both taken a page from Claire Dunphy's book on clearly delineated parental boundaries. 

"Being your kids' best friend is not always the best parenting choice," she says.

Source: Working Mother