It’s no secret that Melissa and Joe Gorga have a healthy, often steamy relationship. They have been married for nine years and have survived two seasons on The Real Housewives of New Jersey, after all.

Now Melissa is preparing for the Sept. 17 release of her book on marriage, Love, Italian Style: The Secrets of My Hot and Happy Marriage.

The Hollywood Reporter caught up with the reality couple at the 2013 VMAs where they offered some tips on maintaining a healthy marriage.

“Men are very visual,” Melissa said. “They see with their eyes.”

They’re visual and they see with their eyes? Thanks so much for that, Mel!

And because men are so visual, Melissa thinks the ladies should be sure to give their men something nice to look at.

“You need to shave your pits, and your legs,” she said. “Flirt with each other. Keep it young and fresh, even when you are together for years and years.”

Ever the master of the blunt response, Joe Gorga only had two words to share, “Sexy underwear.”

Thanks for the tip, Joe!

Do you think Melissa should be offering secrets to a healthy marriage when rumors of her cheating popped up on RHoNJ this season? Tell us below!

Source: The Hollywood Reporter