Tamra Barney says she was baffled by Gretchen Rossi's reaction to her inviting Alexis Bellino on her wedding dress shopping trip on this week's episode of Real Housewives of Orange County.

"It was hard for me to tell Gretchen that I made peace with Alexis, and she really made me feel horrible when she heard I invited her," Tamra writes in her Bravo blog

"I was so confused and even considered rescinding the invitation to make Gretchen happy," she says. "Gretchen was right, I was not extremely close to Alexis at the time  but I was trying to move on and get her more involved in the group of girls."

"Here is the biggest difference between me and Gretchen: I forgive, forget, and move on," Tamra continues. "I do not hold a grudge like her."

Tamra was also not a fan of Slade's behavior toward Lydia at the salsa party.

"Slade making fun of Lydia being too skinny was not nice," Tamra writes. "He seems to have a pattern of making fun of women  not a nice characteristic in a man. Even if he was joking, the part that annoyed me was his passive aggressive/reverse psychology."

"When he was caught he should have said, 'I am sorry I was not trying to hurt your feelings,'" Tamra says. "That kind of behavior drives me nuts. Take ownership for what you are saying and stop blowing smoke up her ass." Okay, then.

Tamra says she wishes she hadn't gotten involved with Lauri Peterson in the discussion about Brooks Ayers's personal life.

"Now looking back, I see Lauri really has an agenda and wants to bring Vicki DOWN," Tamra says. "I am mad at myself for entertaining the conversation."

Tamra  who says she plans to now go by Tamra Judge  also says she had an amazing time at her wedding over the weekend.

"It was an amazing day that we will remember forever," Tamra writes. "Mr. Judge, I love you with all my heart, and I thank you so much for loving me and my children."

Congrats to the Judges!

Source: Tamra's Bravo blog