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Jillian Harris has a lot of feelings about watching Emily Maynard fall deeper and deeper for her final two, Jef Holm and Arie Luyendyk, Jr., on The Bachelorette. The former Bachelorette (Season 5) vividly remembers when she herself was lounging in a tropical location, making out with her last two guys, and quickly approaching that fateful final rose ceremony.

In her blog for Ladies’ Home Journal, Jilly writes, “I don’t envy Emily at this stage. You truly do have severe feelings for the final three guys. I can’t speak for all of the bachelorettes, but I’m pretty sure that by the final two you know where your heart is headed, but at three there are still a lot of unanswered questions.” As for where Emily’s heart is headed, Jilly’s not totally sure. She thinks the connection between Jef and Emily is a magical, longlasting one — whereas Em’s chemistry with Arie is undeniable, but maybe not strong enough for forever. Here’s what Jilly had to say about the final two and Emily’s looming decision:

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It means a lot that Emily can be herself around Jef: “There is something so magical about Jef and Emily. It’s not like with Arie, where you can tell that they want to rip each other’s clothes off. It’s more unspoken, heart to heart. You feel like Jef will really take care of Emily and she’s so herself with him—she has no problems being goofy and answering his questions. Speaking of which, I love that he probes her and digs deeper when she says something. When I notice those small details, like a genuine conversation, I know that something very powerful is happening.”

 

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Arie and Emily’s intense physical connection isn’t the only thing they have: “Speaking of powerful, Emily and Arie totally had the sexual chemistry going on—they were 50 Shades of Grey all over each other! That chemistry is hard to find after having your heart broken so many times; I know from experience. So when you find it again, it’s important to really embrace it but also probe a bit deeper. I do think they have a genuine emotional connection as well, and I love how they discussed Arie’s relationship with Ricki. I liked his approach and thought it was very cool and mature of him, and more than I would have expected!”

 

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Who will Emily pick? “Part of me says pick Arie, pick Arie! They have a connection that will carry them through the six months of hard times in the media after the show, which is so difficult to get through. But what about after that? I think Jef has what it takes to make it with Emily to her rocking years."