The Vampire Diaries mid-season finale reminded us of just how infuriating Damon Salvatore (Ian Somerhalder) can be. He has had his fair share of those moment that make us throw things at the television and yell, “Why?!” Here are five times Damon was the absolute worst.

Breaking up with Elena (Season 5, Episode 10: “Fifty Shades of Grayson”)

We’re going to get this one out of the way because, otherwise, we’ll never be able to focus on Damon’s stupid decisions in seasons past. At the end of the episode, Damon decided to break up with Elena because a) he doesn’t want her to change him, b) he doesn’t want to change her, and c) he doesn’t want to see her face whenever she finds out about another person he’s up and murdered. The thing is: these are all issues these two have discussed before you know, in all those episodes Damon was pining after Elena. Now that he has her, he dumps her? Not cool, bro. Also not cool: not really giving Elena a voice in the matter. He just told her that they were breaking up, discussion over. This was the worst.

Forcing Elena to drink his blood (Season 2, Episode 20: “The Last Day”)

In Season 2, Episode 20, Damon is freaking out that Elena will die as Klaus plans to sacrifice her that very night. So he makes Elena drink his blood so that, if she does die, she will come back as a vampire. Even though Elena does not want this for herself. This is totally The Worst.

Snapping Jeremy’s neck (Season 2, Episode 1: “The Return”)

The time Damon snapped Jeremy’s neck in front of Elena? Not awesome. In Season 2, Episode 1, Damon is not feeling great about the dual rejections from both Katherine and Elena, so he takes it out by snapping young Gilbert’s neck. Jeremy comes back to life because he is wearing the magical Gilbert Ring, but Damon did not know that was going to happen. Which makes him the Worst in this moment.

Killing Lexi (Season 1, Episode 8: “162 Candles”)

Four seasons on, and we’re still not over this. In Season 1, Episode 8, Damon kills Stefan’s BFF in front of his brother. On his birthday. It’s kind of to prove himself to the Founder’s Council, but mostly to be a jerk. This action only becomes sadder and more disturbing once we learn just how close Stefan and Lexi were and how she helped him overcome his bloodlust. More recently, we found out that Lexi also tried to help Damon. In fact, she semi-fell for him -- but it was all just a months-long ruse for Damon to punish Lexi for trying to help him. Both of these things? Damon being The Worst. Lexi was awesome.

Compelling Caroline to be his personal blood bag (All of Season 1)

Speaking of Season 1, remember how Damon totally used Caroline for all of it? The high schooler had a crush on the older, dreamy dude and went for it. Damon used his powers of compulsion and his willingness to prey on Caroline’s low self-esteem to get her to be his own personal blood bag. She followed him around, providing a snack whenever he might be hungry, wearing brightly-colored scarves to hide the bite marks. Caroline remembered all of this once she became a vampire herself, and she’s never forgiven Damon for it, which is what makes her antagonism towards the entire Delena relationship make so much sense. Because Damon was The Worst to her.

Do you agree with our Damon Being The Worst moments? Do you have some of your own to add? Sound off in the comments below!

Catch the next episode of The Vampire Diaries on Thursday, January 23, 2014 at 8 p.m. ET on the CW, followed by an all-new episode of Reign.