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Vampire Diaries lovers know that Stefan (Paul Wesley) and Damon Salvatore (Ian Somerhalder) have a long history of falling for the same woman. And we do mean loooong; these brothers are over 160 years old.

But while they may have similar taste in ladies, but their romantic styles couldn’t be more different. When Stefan recently rattled off their first love Katherine’s birthday like it was yesterday and not in 1473, Damon commented, as only Damon can, “And that, brother, is why you are the better boyfriend.”

But is that true? We’re not claiming to be love experts over here, but that definitely got us thinking about which Salvatore is really the better boyfriend. Elena (Nina Dobrev) is the latest (and greatest?) of the objects of their mutual affection, and though they’ve both dated her at this point, those relationships have been very different.

Who’s a better boyfriend? Who’s to say! Below, we make the case for each side. If you have an opinion on the matter (and we know you do), let us know!

Stefan: The younger Salvatore is certainly the more considerate and thoughtful of the two, and he tends to play things safe. He tried to end things with Elena almost as soon as they got started, because he was overly concerned about the danger he could put her in. He’s super protective, loves to talk about his feelings, and he brings flowers. But he also hid things he thought would upset Elena, like the fact that he’d gotten his taste for human blood back, or that she was a dead ringer for his crazy ex-girlfriend.

Damon: Elder brother Damon, on the other hand, is more of a no-hold-barred kind of lover. He freely admitted to Elena that he would have let Matt die instead of her when they both went off Wickery Bridge — even knowing that the guilt of that would haunt Elena forever. (Stefan, who was there and did the saving, did as Elena begged him and saved Matt, even though that’s what made her become a vampire and lose the human life she wanted.) Damon waited for years, and stopped at nothing, to free Katherine from the tomb where he thought she was trapped. He’s also incredibly protective, and continued to look after Elena even after she chose Stefan over him. Then again, he also couldn’t care less about protecting people feelings, because he’s admitted he’s selfish.

How to decide?! We know it’s a tough call, but we believe in you. Make your choice, then let us know who you picked and why!