I’ve hashed this out with a few of my friends, and I know it sounds a bit shocking if not totally rude, but I don’t like “mommy groups.” There, I said it. Before having kids, I thought I would be all about it. My fellow mothren all gathering together to tell war stories, poop stories, and cutie patootie stories? What’s not to love? But then I joined one and, ya know what, I didn’t like it.
Okay, okay, so I probably could have tried another one to see if I liked it better, but I think I figured out what I don’t like about the overall concept. With many of the women in the group that I joined, the only thing I had on common was the fact that I was a mother. And when you are staying at home with infants, you’ve got all baby, all the time. Do you really need to go out and talk more about your babies while your baby is right there being a baby? You get what I’m trying to say, right?
In fact, when my girlfriends and I do a girls’ night out, we try hard not to talk about our kids. Inevitably, the conversation ends up there and we don’t berate ourselves for it, but we make an effort to discuss our lives, our husbands, and anything else interesting going on in our worlds. It’s our brief respite from the hustle and bustle, and we use the time wisely.
The thing is, there should be subgroups for mommy groups (in my humble opinion, of course). I’m thinking “moms who bike” or even “moms who hate biking.” Or how about “moms who love wine”? I could be on board with that one for sure. You get my drift. Yes, we are a proud group, us mothers, and as well we should be. We birthed these babies and have spent more than a few sleepless nights with them. But that doesn’t mean I want to hang out with other women just for the sake of us all being moms.
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